I had to read this twice. It is so sad that much of the world is in this mindset. We have so much to learn about finding a good life partner and keeping that person.

I had difficulties relating with the opposite gender in my younger days. I probably would have been called an incel if that word had been around back then. But I was living on my own--and stayed away from pornography.

I remember making the decision that it would be better to be single than to go through more grief of clumsy dating. I could have used a counsellor back then, but there was too much pride.

I briefly thought about a foreign bride. I was smart enough to realize that the odds of finding a compatible quick-fix bride were low. I did not want a marriage like my parents'. Being single is easier than being at war.

It is such a paradox that some men can go through many women who voluntarily accept those men's man's amorous sales pitches yet other men can't find much love.

Anyways, there's enough good example in my life to show that a good marriage is good for both partners.