Marilyn, It’s interesting that you mention “power structures”. One power structure for a woman to pretend to be available for a man, but really isn’t.
And then we have the fine line between pretending to be available and just being friendly.
I found it impressive for a women to admit being a former promiscuous person. All sorts of stigma goes with that, yet men can get away with being youthful players.
My hypothesis is that many promiscuous people are either psychologically traumatized to some degree and/or have bought into sexuality as their main “pursuit of happiness.” If society can remove those two features, I wonder how many promiscuous people there really would be.
I was a former binge drinker. Many of us of had gone done an unproductive path in life. But I wasn’t so good with girls.